But before you can begin �grieve� that loss of trust, or simply throw caution to the wind and ditch your partner for good, you need to make absolutely sure your reaction will be 100% warranted. You need to know without doubt whether your lover has, in fact, double-crossed you by looking for, finding, and partaking in, an affair.
The only guaranteed way of knowing this, aside from finding damning physical evidence or seeing the affair with your own eyes (both pretty rare), is by hearing a confession straight from the horse�s mouth, by communicating your suspicions with your partner and listening to what they have to say � however heartbreaking or relieving their response might be. But before you take that big step, there are a few simpler and smaller steps you can take to make the whole process, the whole �investigation� and confrontation of your partner, easier and more factually accurate.
The first thing you should do is look for some of the most common signs/groups of signs people produce when they cheat. I�ve listed 3 of them below. Read over and think about each and carefully consider if they apply to you, your partner and your relationship.
1. Changes in sex drive and sexual behaviour.
Sex is almost always an integral part of a happy and healthy relationship between two people. So when one of the two, regardless of whether it�s the guy or the girl, begins to cheat, it doesn�t come as any surprise that changes in the way they feel about having sex with their partner can be brought about. There are two main ways these changes can manifest themselves. When the cheater initially begins their affair, they may � out of guilt and in an effort to avoid the newly formed affair being rumbled � actually increase the amount of attention they pay their real partners in bed. Conversely, and usually a little while after the affair has begun, the cheater may appear to have a loss of sex drive. They, for some reason, seem to not want to be intimate with you as much as they used to. Once again, this can be attributed to guilt, but more often it�s to do with a fear they�ll reveal their infidelity through they way they behave before, during and after having sex with you.
2. Peculiar changes in habits & schedule.
When people cheat, they invariably change their behaviour and/or habits in some way, small or large. The reason they cannot avoid these alterations is because, no matter how infrequently or secretly they see the person they�re having an affair with, they MUST � at some point or another � go out of their way to do so (and thereby break or change habits and behaviour). So, look for recent and pronounced modifications in the times they come home/leave the house (and whether the changed times �repeat� weekly), increased usage of the phone or computer for no obvious/innocent reason, and other differences in the way your partner acts and behaves. You know your partner�s old habits and ways of living better than anyone, so draw from that knowledge to compare how they might have changed them and to decide if the changes are to be taken as possible indications of betrayal.
3. Miscellaneous indicators of infidelity.
Lastly, there�s the group of infidelity indicators that don�t fit in any other box or under any other title. They�re the things you notice, question and cannot innocently explain away. They�re the things you spot but almost choose to forget because you�re so unsure of what they may or may not mean and whether, ultimately, they are true signs that your partner is cheating on you with someone else. Here are just a couple of miscellaneous indications of infidelity:
A. Your partner no longer seems to get angry with you when in the past they always seemed to be picking a fight or getting worked up over any tiny issue. Cheaters often �let their partners off� because they want as little confrontation (which could lead to a discovery on your part) as possible.
B. She or he frequently shifts the focus onto you. Cheaters often asks their partners more questions about how their day went, how they�re feeling, etc, again, to shift the attention away from them and their guilt.
Remember, when you suspect your partner may be cheating, always take the smaller steps � by looking for the kinds of subtle signs listed above � before taking the biggest step of all: confronting them. Doing so will give you the very best chance of a happy, or at least a more manageable, final outcome.
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